To the Single Moms from a Single Mom’s Child

Mother’s Day just happened, and we all love our moms, right?! Even if we had a Dad instead of a mom, we love you too! But this blog is for the single moms out there who need some extra love.

Let’s face it, most of you probably feel or have felt alone on this journey. No matter what got you into this status of being a Single Mom, you are all equal. Even if you are no longer a single parent (like my Mom), you know all too well how if feels. This is an open letter to all of you from someone who lived this & turned out just fine. Let me show you what we–your kids–see.

As I become an adult, I meet more and more people who are single moms. Most of them have that common worry of not being enough for their child. But they are wrong….

You ARE enough, and you’re not alone.


Here’s a little story. In my family, my “grandfather” left my Nana when my Mom & her siblings were teenagers. It was rough for all of them. Years later, my Mom was pregnant with me and long story short, my “dad” didn’t want to be in my life. What happened when Mom had me surprises me every time I hear it, because I had no idea until a couple years ago….

Apparently, my family wasn’t in the best place– as you could guess with a father recently running out on them along with any other drama. I mean, what family doesn’t have drama?? The siblings were fighting & my Nana was not only depressed, but trying to keep the family together. When I was born, the fighting stopped…. That’s what babies can do. They are miracles all on their own! From there, my life started.

The best thing my Mom & Nana could’ve done for me was have the family’s help. And I mean the ENTIRE family! My Great Grandma (whom I just call Grandma) & Grandpa watched me a lot when Mom & Nana had to work. My Mom’s siblings (and some significant others) lived with us in the very beginning. It was like Full House but with 1 kid: me! My Aunts & Uncle watched me a lot too, including my Great Aunt (Nana’s sister). It was a family effort to raise me for a long time. Honestly, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I was the only child in my immediate family until I was 12. I had a few cousins (5 to be exact), who I saw every once in a while, until my other cousins & sister were born after age 12.

And we did all this without my “dad”. I put parentheses around it because he’s not my dad, he’s the sperm that helped make me. Sorry Mom, but it’s true! People have always asked me about “my dad” since I was little. When I’d simply say “I don’t have one”, EVERY response was like this: “Oh I’m so sorry. What happened to him?” or “Oh, why not?” Gee, I was 8 when these were asked, do I look like I would know? Oh, and these questions were from parents of my friends. My friends would just say “Oh” and move on, as kids often do. There’s not much else to talk about is there? Apparently to adults, there was. Good job random adults of my childhood, you’ve now made it into the story… lol.

When I turned 13, my Mom told me about “my dad”. Then she told me I could go find him & meet him if I wanted. Now, most people think my response would’ve been YES. But it wasn’t. I simply said, “Why? If he didn’t stay, than I don’t wanna meet him.” I think Mom took it pretty harsh, but she had a Dad most of her life. I didn’t have this gaping, upsetting hole in my heart because he wasn’t there to fill it. Instead, my heart was full from all the love I had in every direction. Not only did I see my whole family a lot, I had my Nana to replace that void for my entire growing up life. I got to have another Mom instead! Mother’s Day in my family has always been a big deal. And I personally have never once celebrated a Father’s Day. Don’t get me wrong, I will when I have my own kids, & my little sister celebrates it with my step-Dad, but I will never forget where I came from. 

Ever.


As some of my Aunts have put it, I was the child of the family at that time. So this is where I get to the single moms out there now. You aren’t alone. Find those family members or close friends who can be there for not just you, but your child. Yes, it’s true that we all need somebody to lean on. So why not lean on someone who already loves you, no matter what?? And if you want to do it alone, more power to you honey! That’s even cooler because you can claim both roles! Haha 

I don’t know if Mom even did this, but it seemed like there was just no question about dad. This was just how it was. I didn’t know better and the family kept it that way. I know many LGBT couples probably do the same with their kids: this is our life, and it’s perfect the way it is, no matter how different. We have our kids & that’s all that matters. It doesn’t matter if the father is a deadbeat, or even if he passed away. OR even if there is no Mom (for the Dad’s who are reading this). The kids don’t know the difference unless they are told. Yes, it’s difficult and not what you planned, but your child doesn’t know that. All they know is you, their family & how much they are loved. Even if Dad is a little involved, play it like it’s normal for the rest of the World! I can’t speak for divorces, but maybe try the same kind of positive thinking, and things will be better. Keep the love involved, and there won’t be problems with you & your child’s relationship– at least until they are teenagers. You will have a very close relationship, which is great!

I know a lot of you have experienced this question or are afraid of it coming from your child: “who is my dad?” You can choose how to answer that, even if it’s a lie! I don’t remember asking this question. I remember asking Mom about her Dad, but that’s it. Remember how in school the whole class makes a Father’s Day gift for their Dads? THAT was what I got confused on. I remember sitting in my 1st grade class with a blank Father’s Day card, thinking to myself “Who the heck do I give this to?” My teacher asked me what was wrong & I said “Nothing, I just don’t have a Dad…” She went “Ok, well is there someone else you love besides Mom? We can save her for Mother’s Day..” The teacher left me to my thoughts. That year, I gave it to Nana. I crossed out the Father & replaced it with Nana. This made the front of the card say “Happy Nana’s Day!” Btw, I think that should be a thing. Anyways, she loved it! I made one for Grandpa one year, but most of the time they went to Nana. 

So, when you cross this bridge with your own child, they may come up with a solution all their own like I did. If not, you decide what you want them to know while they are young. It is ultimately protecting them from some drama they can’t understand yet. You can tell them when they’re older, or just not mention it. After I turned 13, I knew the story, and that was it. I didn’t need the option, or want to know more. Mom told me he has other kids. Didn’t need to know that, or them! How messed up would it be for his wife if I showed up & ruined everything she knew about him? Ruined his kid’s lives because I was being selfish & making myself feel better? I don’t need it. The less drama the better! Do you want your child to do this? Sure, you may hate the guy, but what about the wife or other kids? If you do it right, nothing bad will happen on all sides. TRUST ME! 

It’s true, as Mom, you are our everything and more. Coming from someone on the other side, it’ll be ok! We just want you. You are always enough. 

Don’t ever doubt it.

As an adult now, my only stumbling point on this “no dad” thing will be my future wedding. But I have lots of choices for people to give me away. I have my Uncles, Aunts & even Mom to choose from! I will probably have Mom do it if she wants to. If my great grandparents are still around, one of them could even do it. I’ve seen that before! This is for me to figure out, and is not anyone’s fault. It is part of my life. My special day will just be THAT much more special than a normal wedding. And there’s nothing wrong with that. I’m already pretty unique, as each one of us is!

So to all you single moms, new or older, we’re fine and we will be. We–your kids–just need your love, and maybe a little extra from you or anyone else. Don’t ever put blame on yourself please, that’s the last thing we want.

You can do this…..

Love you Mom,

Love your daughter/son/children. 

β€οΈπŸ’—

Happy Mother’s Day everyone!


How to Tea-Dye a T-Shirt

Let’s make a Tea-shirt… get it?! Haha I’ve been using that joke all week.

I started figuring this out because I am a dance teacher who occasionally likes to make costumes. I’ve done a few & they’ve been great! Like Star Wars Padawan Jedi…

OR This year’s theme: Pirates of the Caribbean!

Can you tell I like Disney stuff?? Lol There are videos of both of these dances on YouTube. Just search Pirates Dance or Star Wars Dance! They are pretty fun.

Anyways…. I wanted a nice tan colored shirt. Did you know that’s hard to find?! Yes, very difficult. So, I looked up ways to make a white shirt that color. I could just buy brown dye, but I was worried it would be too dark. Then I found a cheaper way, with tea bags!! Just buy some black tea–a whole bunch of it– and you can dye it. Sounds simple, right?!

Things you’ll need:

  • Lots of water- hot & cold
  • A T-shirt (preferably white for the best look)
  • Black tea bags (more than 10 if doing more than one shirt.
  • A bucket of a big bowl(if doing only 1 shirt)

Step 1: Fill your bucket

First, you need to fill your bucket (or bowl) with hot water, and tons of it! If your doing one shirt, fill up 1/3 of the bucket OR your entire bowl. If your doing more than one, fill it up with over half. I just used hot water from the sink- our sink water gets boiling hot. Another recipe I found said to boil the water, but why not eliminate that step entirely if you can?! You can also use a tea maker to boil water, it just may take longer to fill up the bucket.

Step 2: Make some Tea!

It’s time to name tea to use as dye. If you want the shirt to be darker, out more tea bags in! I did 5 bags for one shirt and got this look: 

If you’re doing more than one at a time–like I was– double the amount of tea bags! For example: 

  • 1 shirt= 5 tea bags
  • 2 shirts = 10 tea bags
  • 3 shirts = 15 tea bags….

Got it? I did 20 tea bags for 4 shirts, multiple times. See how much I had to fill my bucket?

 Once you’ve put in your tea bags, let it steep for at least 10 minutes depending on how many you put in. 

*Tip: if you cover your bowl or bucket, the tea bags will steep faster! Plus you don’t lose so much hot water.

Presto! You’re ready fir the next step!

Step 3: Add the shirt(s)

Time to soak! The shirt will need to soak for close to 2 hours. 1 shirt for me took barely an hour and a half for the color I wanted. More than one shirt took 2 hours or more. 

Now, you will want to check the shirt half way through to make sure all of it is being dyed. For me, I stirred my many shirts to make sure they all got the right amount of dye. Why worry? Well, shirts float! Sometimes a piece will bubble up and stay at the surface. It may create a cool look for sure! But you don’t need it… 

Step 4: Drain & Rinse

Drain your bowl/bucket into the sink. Take out each shirt & squeeze all the extra fluid out. You will see tea come out which is ok! It’s sat in it long enough that it shouldn’t fade too much. 

Next, fill your bowl or bucket up with cold water; this will set the color on the shirts! Fill the water a little less then when you filled it with hot. Put the shirt(s) in the cold water and let them sit! They need to sit for at least an hour. It’s basically half the time they dyed in the tea.

Step 5: Hang Dry

Squeeze out the water, and hang ’em up! It’s best to do this in a laundry room or bathroom where you don’t care what happens to the floor. Tea will drop out! I put a dark towel down so it didn’t stain the bathroom floor.

And that’s it! Once it’s dry, this shirt is ready to wear! Have fun!! 

Thanks for reading!

Prince Phillip vs. Prince Phillip?


Ok, ok, I know you’re probably confused. So let me explain…

Lately, Disney is having fun doing live-action remakes of their classic animated films. They just did Beauty & the Beast, and it was awesome!! Yes, there are a few things I’m sure some people didn’t like, and things we did. Like, I’m happy they cleared up some confusion on things, like the weather! Thank you Disney!!

Anyways, back to this. With more live-actions coming up, I figured it’s time to look back at one of their first ones: Maleficent. 

I realize that it is through her point of view, instead of the fairies & Aurora’s like the original animated film Sleeping Beauty. But still, you know we were ALL comparing them. I know that Aurora was great & so was Maleficent. Most of the characters weren’t bad. I didn’t like the fairies, they were too ditsy. However, it is how Maleficent viewed them, and that’s how we see them. But my BIGGEST flaw I found, was in a very main character in the original…


Prince Phillip. 


Prince freaking Phillip: the definition of smooth. In Sleeping Beauty, Prince Phillip was hot! And he went after what he wanted, fast! Plus, he was a smooth talker. He stole Aurora’s heart in 1 minute! And he could sing! So suave, I’m jealous. He even tried to smooth talk his father, and it worked!

So, let’s compare! The original Prince wore a beautiful get-up: Red cape, sleek grey & black outfit, with boots & THE BEST horse-Samson! And Samson is white with a black mane… remember that…. 

Great, right?!

Now, let’s get to the live-version Phillip: All white horse, with a blue dress kind of outfit, brown cape, and puffy white sleeves… the only thing the same is the hair color… and the boots. Yes, he’s cute & younger to match Aurora. I get the appeal, but he’s not so hot you wanna run away with him. He doesn’t sing, he doesn’t even know if he loves her in this one! Wtf?!

And wait a minute, didn’t the fairies give him the sword?? Again, I get it, there was no “true love” in Maleficent. That’s fine. But the dress thing? Why?? Let me show you this….

Remember Prince Charming from Snow White? Well let’s take a look…

Oh yeah, this guy. Now, look at his outfit….. Look familiar?

WOW! The only difference is the hat because there isn’t one! LOL. So, they made Prince Phillip more poofy like Prince Charming. It’s hilarious! Honestly, where’s the spark? The beautiful dance in the forest or better yet, the dragon fight?!

Well, I guess that’s ok, we didn’t want her dead in the live-action anyways. But it still would’ve showed off Phillip’s talents. It’s pretty crazy how different something can be. But it’s funny how similar he looked like Prince Charming. 

I have to applaud Disney for getting the Beast right on their new Beauty & the Beast. I just hope they keep it up in their new films to come. It’s ok if they don’t all sing, but make them look closer to the original please! See, they did great with the Beast: 

EVEN when he turned human…. HOTTIE!!!

So keep it up Disney we love it! We all want to find out prince, and making these are great for us Disney fans & hopeless romantics… 

The End!

Thanks for reading! All the photos were from Google. πŸ‘πŸΌπŸ˜ I loved writing this one.

JustFab & WHY You Should Try It!

JustFab.com… have you tried it yet? I think you should. I have….
And I LOVE IT!

I was happily surprised that I enjoy it so much after signing up in November. I sighed up because the hit tv show, Project Runway was sponsored by JustFab. Not only were they sponsored, BUT they also had a challenge where the winner’s item would be sold on the website! Of course, the winner was Laurence Basse with this KILLER jumpsuit… 

I HAD to have it. So, I took a leap & signed up for my first members-only shopping site. I had to wait a month to get the jumpsuit, naturally it was sold out. When I got it, I loved it! Take a look….

Now. I’m short & obviously not a model size, but I think I look dang good! And of course it is slightly different than what was on the show, which is ok. I’m so happy with this purchase, not to mention the others I’ve done. So let me talk about the site some more. 

JustFab.com is a members-only shopping site. Yes, you have to sign up to use it. The details:

  • You have to know if you’re going to shop on the site by the 5th of every month. AND if you decide not to shop that month, you have to skip the month. Yes, you can skip & still shop later. That’s what I do so that I have more time. Plus, I sometimes get paid after the 5th, and ya need money to shop right?! Lol. 
  • Shipping is free for any purchase over $39.95! Pretty awesome! 
  • You get points for every dollar you spend, AND for every review you write.
  • You can cancel anytime! I haven’t yet, and idk if I will.

You get styled based on what items you pick. I am a girl next door, which I figured. Lol They suggest outfits, shoes & you can of course pick what you like OR order just from the site & not your boutique. I’ve done both. 

Like I said, you can shop whatever you want! You just have to sign up of course. I know it can be a pain, but it’s not as bad as you think… 


Yup, it’s true, they’ve been running for 7 years! Congrats JustFab! 

Another thing, once you become a certain level in your membership, you can join their program PS. PS is a Personal Shopping assistant that creates a box for you to try things on at home! Then, you can decide to buy them, return them or whatever! Read below…

Pretty cool! I tried it and it was better than I expected. I didn’t keep everything, but it was fun to check out! I think it’s the smartest idea, honestly. So many people hate trying on clothes. So wouldn’t you rather try it at home? Yeah, genius! 

So, Happy Birthday JustFab! Everyone should try it, I mean why not? The clothes are made with very good quality & are easy to exchange, return or better yet, KEEP! 

So try it if you haven’t, I think you’ll like it. Just be careful & don’t lose all your money! Lol

Grumpy: The Funniest of the 7 DwarfsΒ 


We’ve all watched Snow White & the Seven Dwarfs and we know all the dwarfs’ names by heart. Dopey, Happy, Sneezy, Grumpy, Doc, Bashful & Sleepy. All of them were funny in their own way. But I know what you’re thinking…….


Grumpy isn’t the funny one, Dopey is! That’s partly true, yes. However, I have a different view; one that I got as an adult–not a child.


As children watching this Disney classic, we were meant to laugh at Dopey. Dopey was the comic relief for the kids! Everything he does is funny, even though he doesn’t talk. And I’m pretty sure Walt Disney meant for it to be this way. It’s true, ALL seven dwarfs are funny, but the top two are Grumpy & Dopey–with Doc right behind them at #3. 

Dopey does crazy funny stuff. The funniest is probably when he eats the soap! Honestly though, as an adult, all I can think of is his gross that would be in real life. Right?! There are plenty of other things Dopey does that are pretty funny too. I’m sure you remember them like I do. 

Grumpy is funnier in his lines & attitude. He says all the funny lines that mainly adults get. However, he can come across as mean to children. Again, that’s on purpose, hence the name Grumpy. You can tell he’s the guy who doesn’t like change & is very superstitious. For example, he’s pretty sure the Evil Queen is full of “black magic” and will “swoop down and reak her vengeance on us!” in his own words. And he’s totally right most of the time! My favorite part is when everyone else is washing up & Grumpy thinks it’s nuts….  “A fine bunch of water lillies you turned out to be.” I’m laughing out loud every time he says it! 

Another one who’s funny for adults is #3: Doc. Doc sputters his speech all thru the film but is obviously the smartest of the group. There are plenty of times that it is hysterical what he actually says vs what he’s trying to say. For example, when Doc is trying to find out who Snow White is, he first says “What are you and who are you doin?” Come on guys…. that’s a hidden dirty joke in there! Doc is trying to say “Who are you and what are you doin here?” And it didn’t come out that way. He’s another funny one where you have to hear/understand his lines. 


Lastly, there is one more slightly funny thing that doesn’t involve a dwarf. After the Evil Queen has changed into an old lady, and after creating her poison apple, she checks the spell book. She checks to make sure there’s no cure for the sleeping death. But there is… love’s first kiss. Her response? “Love’s first kiss! (Slams book shut) She’ll be buried alive!” And she laughs hysterically at the idea of the cure actually happening. To be honest, it’s kinda funny that she doesn’t believe it could even happen. Didn’t she see the prince? There’s always a chance when it’s true love! 

Let’s try a little experiment….

1) Close your eyes & think way back to watching Snow White as a kid. Now, think of all the times you laughed SO hard at Dopey. What was he doing that was so funny? Write it down. 

2) Now, think about all the times you thought Grumpy was mean when you watched this film as a kid: Why was he mean in your opinion? When was it in the story? Write it down.

3) Finally, watch the movie as an adult. If you can, do it by yourself. As you watch, see which parts make you laugh now. See which parts aren’t as funny as you remember them. And, see if anything makes you cry (bonus*which dwarf makes you cry when they cry about Snow White’s death?) Also, see if a totally different character makes you laugh!

*Here are my results/thoughts in terms of the questions above: (I added pictures just did fun)

1) I used to laugh really hard at Dopey eating the soap or when Sneezy sneezed. Sneezy was another funny one that I forgot! I also laughed when the turtle falls down the stairs. Otherwise, this film was never my favorite… but now I like it way more!

2) Grumpy was mean when he wanted to send a Snow White away. Also, why didn’t he want to wash? She just wanted him to be clean. 

3) Dopey isn’t as funny, but still had some funny parts. Sneezy is only funny to me the first time he sneezes so bad that everyone flys away. The turtle falling is still funny! Snow White is funny when she figures out which one Grumpy is. 

Omg Doc, that was a dirty joke.. haha!

After Grumpy runs into the door, Snow White goes, “Aw did you hurt yourself??” GOOD BURN Snow White! Hahaha

OMG Grumpy is so funny! Am I just like him?? My new favorite line sequence is: Grumpy: “They’re full of wicked wiles.” Bashful: “What are wicked wiles?” Grumpy: “I don’t know, but imma get ’em!” Lol 

Oh lord, let’s just say this: “Bbbb bbbb bbbb!” I love that washing scene. 

That silly song is funnier than you think….

Grumpy DOES like her…. Oh no, he’s sad that she’s dead. OK I, CRYING NOW! Thanks Grumpy..

Yay! She’s alive! Grumpy must be so happy. Well, they all are. A Happy Ending!

*– That was it! I would love to hear your results & answers too! Please comment & we can compare.*

So you see why I think Grumpy is the funniest? Plus, my family agrees. Go Grumpy!


Thanks for reading! This one was fun, also it gave me a chance to review some characters I never thought of before. Enjoy!
Pictures all came from Google or screen shots of my own. 

I Got a Kitten!

In August…And I just realized that I didn’t blog about it! What the heck, right? To be honest, life has been quite a mess so that’s why I forgot to write about it. If you follow me on Instagram, this isn’t news to you. But to my blog followers, this IS news! So, here we go…

Ok, so first off, in July, we rescued this little guy from my aunt’s work. We named him Simba & it fits him purrfectly! And he’s so adorable &’fun.

Unbeknownst to me, Simba was not going to be mine. If you don’t know, we have a house of cats & only 1 is truly my cat. So, I thought he might be mine in the future. But I was WRONG! And nobody told me until the mom cat abandoned the rest of her litter.. yeah. So, my aunt brought them home for 1 night & told me that I could have the little girl kitten as a peace offering for not being able to have Simba. Mad & upset, at first I said no. Then Aunt Heidi held her up to me and said, “She’s a sweetheart & if you don’t want her, you can pick another one from the group of you want.” This little girl was SO ADORABLE but I still hesitated. When Aunt Becky came home, she told me a girl would probably be better for MY cat (Alice) anyways, since she thinks she’s a princess. So, I am doomed to be a cat lady. And yes, I kept the girl kitten & named her Nala. Perfect right? 

This all happened in August. So, now I technically have 2 cats; Alice & Nala. Nana & Simba are much bigger now, (they are now 6 months old) and they are even more fun! Plus it’s been great to be involved at raising them from 2/3 weeks to now. Take a look! I’ll start with photos of them younger to now…. 

I love how soft kittens are!! Don’t you?? This is them in like, October I think..

Nala… btw I love that she looks like a cheetah! 


And Simba, who loves the other cats too! Which is good because he’s got to live with them forever. 

And here’s December & now! 

They are so huge now!! And my cat, Alice, isn’t too sure what to think of them when they play in her room every night… 

but she IS ok with Nala sleeping with us… well, kinda. 

So this has been my life lately. Pretty fun! 

**If you aren’t already, check out my shop’s Instagram @strndbyKylie_jewelry every week for my #disneycatmonday posts! These cuties are on there and tons more! Or you could just search that hashtag lol

*Also, I’m currently working on a new Disney animal list blog AND possibly another big one… can’t wait to finish them soon! Thanks for reading. 

..And a Crappy New Year!Β 


I hope that 2017 is WAY better than 2016. I know I’m not alone in hoping so. I had some good points in the beginning but the end of it has sucked. Not to mention all the famous people who’ve died! Including my Nana… 

R.I.P to the following:

David Bowie

Goblin King forever…

Alan Rickman

Always… πŸ’”

Dan Haggerty

Doris Roberts

She was on a lot of shows & movies! 

Anton Yelchin

So young! So sad.

Gene Wilder

This man was so funny, full of wisdom and had a world of pure imagination. 

Arnold Palmer

Not just a famous drink…

Prince

WHY?!

Mohammad Ali

What a guy & what a fighter..

Florence Henderson

Oh man! Not her too!

Alan Thicke

Wait… WHAT?! How did I not hear about this?

Zsa Zsa Gabor

So beautiful 

George Michael

Carrie Fisher

NO!! Not Princess Leia!

Debbie Reynolds

Carrie Fisher’s mom, whose last words were “I wanna be with Carrie.” Only a few days after her daughter. So sad!!😫

And many more! ;(

Yup, this year has had so many deaths I can’t remember them all. So freaking sad! I can’t wait for it to be over. But the sad truth is, 2017 may not be better than this year, and here’s why: it’s only better if you make it better. Yes, some things may be out of control-like death- but other personal issues are on yourself. It’s quite a pill to swallow sometimes. 

So when you ring in the new year, try to make it a good one. I know I will try! Good luck to everyone in the new year!!